Show Him You Care!

Now, I know a lot of people in this modern world think that the traditional tasks a wife does for a husband is mute, but I believe it’s not.  I don’t believe a wife should be a slave to her husband, but I do believe there are things they can do that just show their love just a little more – and the traditional tasks are usually well appreciated by the husband (at least by mine, and by Dina-Marie’s).

Please re-welcome Dina-Marie from Dimes2Vines, who is guest posting here for me while I’m away for a second time (you can see the first one about Foods to Improve your Memory here)!  She is truly a talented writer and blogs about her family’s life style change from the corporate world in Alabama to beginning a vineyard in west Texas. From children, chickens, cows to coupons, she desires to encourage others where they are with what they have.

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You might think that after almost 28 years of marriage and having 10 children with the same man, our love would grow old. I guess it could, if I let it – but I refuse!

People often ask me, “how, after so long together, do you keep the love alive?”. I have to say that it does not happen by accident.

My husband was a chemist for 20 years and we had a very comfortable life. Then, we moved our family from Alabama to Texas to begin a commercial family vineyard. My support in following his desire for such a change made a huge impact on him – realizing that I would leave a secure life to follow his dream. Your husband knows by your actions and attitudes whether or not you will follow his dreams!

Whether or not you are called on to show your devotion so overtly or just through the actions of daily life, let’s look at 5 ways to show him you care:

1. Get up with him in the morning. Whether to have breakfast of just share a cup of coffee, let him know you want to spend time with him even if it means you lose sleep.

2. Take care of yourself.

  • Maintain a proper weight.
  • Exercise does wonders for you energy level, as well as, muscle tone, and increasing the sense of well being by releasing “happy hormones” or endorphins.
  • Healthy eating is good, not only for you, but also for your family. Eating a healthy diet will often mean cutting out processed and fast foods resulting in weight loss.

3. When your husband comes home from work, stop and greet him. This shows enthusiasm for his return and conveys to him that you missed him. Stop what you are doing and go give him a kiss!

4. Straighten up the house before he comes home. This does not have to be deep cleaning, just tidy up a bit. After all, he has been working all day and a house in order provides a sense of peace and security.

5. Create romantic time together. It can be very elaborate with babysitter, restaurant reservations and movie tickets or, as simple as, watching a movie together complete with candles after the children are in bed.

Use your imagination and purpose to show your man that he is your number one!

 

 

  • https://twitter.com/chancesmommy Christine

    Great post! Thanks for sharing! I enjoyed reading the tips, although like the other commenter said, some of the points assume that the wife is not working or gets home before her hubby. #3 When husband comes home from work, stop and greet him.  There are days when Hubby doesn’t get in from work until 10PM or when I’m teaching, sometimes we don’t even see each other until bed time. I remember my grandmother telling me how she used to wait for my grandfather after work and meet him at the door with his newspaper and slippers. I think that’s really sweet and I wish we were in a position to be able to have that extra time :( Sadly, our schedules do not permit :(

    As for #4, when I get home from a full day of teaching and then having to play with our 3 year old and prepare supper, the house is not tidied up until little one is in bed. I wish I had time between work and supper to get the house tidied before hubby comes in. It’s just not feasible when both husband and wife are working. I find myself so worn out as it is. :)

    Thanks for sharing this post. I really enjoyed the read! xoxo

    • BewilderedBug

      Hey Christine,

      Yep, when I first read it I was like “not in my life – I can’t do all of this!!!” but they are good hints and I believe that we can move toward the sentiment of these words….I don’t know many people who come home at a reasonable hour from work anymore in this modern day unfortunately and most families I know have both parents working – whether it be out of the home or blogging (which in itself can be a full time job) – so this stuff is not pertinent to every and all women….but at least we can take something from it right?

  • izatrini

    Two of these five points assume that the wife is either not working or that she gets home before her husband. With point 1, what if the wife has to be out of the house even before the husband gets up? With point 2, a woman should take care of herself for her own sake…what does a man have to do with that? 

    I fully agree with point 5! 

  • izatrini

    Two of these five points assume that the wife is either not working or that she gets home before her husband. With point 1, what if the wife has to be out of the house even before the husband gets up? With point 2, a woman should take care of herself for her own sake…what does a man have to do with that? 

    I fully agree with point 5! 

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